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Structural Game Vs Natural Game

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by: GabrielAngelo
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Date: Thu, 6 Jan 2011 Time: 5:47 AM

There are generally two kinds of social interaction categorized you used when you go out: structural and natural. Being structural is when you are applying any structured linear process of interacting, almost like an already rehearsed social performance that you have successfully done before, hence a specific routine.

One example of this would be using the classic M3 Model contributed by the pick-up artist Mystery, in which you start off attracting the girl followed by building comfort with her and then seducing her, broken down into different phases, A1, A2, A3, C1, C2, C3, S1, S2, and S3. (For those who don't know, these respectively equate to Opening, Female-to-Male Interest, Male-to-Female Interest, Conversation, Connection, Intimacy, Foreplay, Last Minute Resistance, and Sex)

And by being natural, you are basically being present and winging it, but that doesn't mean you are NOT adopting some kinds of a little bit of a structure because from time to time, something will just pop into your head when you are being in the moment that will lead you to use a part of a social performance, component of that routine, which could be the old joke you have told your friends or stories.

In this case of interacting to a girl for example, if you approached her and have been natural for only a minute and realized that she is already attracted to you, you have already bypassed all the attraction needed to be built and can go into establishing comfort and building a connection; and you can go into some scripts you have told over and over again that built comfort like magic, but not necessary word for word. (You are editing your social performance.)

But how do you become natural where you can wing it, but most importantly do it right, instead of coming off as a creep or a wimp.

Well, if you look at some of the best pickup-artists today who started out socially incompetent, you will realize a majority of them started out using some sorts of structure to help them in their social interaction to becoming a natural, if they did not, they started out as naturals to begin with; and they got so used to that structure that it was programmed into their brain where now they do everything right that gets the girl subconsiously and spontaneously without needing to think about it, which to everybody else seems natural.

Remember first learning to read back when you when you were a kid?

For myself I always thought it was a waste of time learning the name of the alphabet, but now I understood that it was a learning phase to being a spontaneous, natural reader. First they taught you the alphabet, then the alphabetical phonics, and then using the structural mnemonic sounds of the letters, you learned to be natural and spontaneous with each new word you come across.

Similar to social dynamics, you wouldn't properly start out if you weren't guided by some structures, or else you would be doing a lot of social miscalibration by trying to be all natural; hence, come across as unnatural. Why does social miscalibration matter?.

Well, there are a couple of reasons, but one reason is you could without being awared of it come across as creepy or weird and loss a lot of social proof. When other girls see that, your chance are slim to getting her because as you know, girls are always thinking about their status, and having you being labeled as the creepy guy, she doesn't want to be affiliated with you.

Now I am not preferring structured over natural, or vice-versa, but I do advocate using both in conjunction to reach total social mastery because that is exactly where you will want to be eventually!

About the Author

Gabriel Angelo runs http://www.socialnatural.com, with the unique approach to dating and meeting women, by focusing on developing your "social skills" to be the most socially savvy person you can be, not just with women...but everybody. Although the arts are primarily related to dating and attracting women, they can be applied to other aspects of your life from social, dating, personal, and even professional.

For more information, please visit http://www.socialnatural.com.


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